#246
Alright, you ask why isn't my funding proposal launched. I don't know. They told me PayPal would take
2 days and then I could launch, but I haven't received the verification,
yet. So another night...
I've been trying to look at patterns across reunions
today. By and large the women in my collection
have had successful reunions, although nobody has said that they've been
easy. Reunions are riddled with a
tremendous variety of emotions for everyone concerned, yet most of these women
are happier and more at peace because of reunion.
The expectations of this new relationship cannot be those of a
standard mother/child relationship. It
is a mixture of roles and itself creates a new one. There is so much about this stranger that you
know, that you understand, and for the adoptee, gaining genetic information
seems to free them to be more genuine in their lives. But neither person can expect to fill the
hole left by the relinquishment.
I've become extremely pro reunions and would like to be
trained as a search angel. One of the
reasons why I would like to do that is I believe I understand the enormity of
the process and don't take it as either an easy decision nor as an easy process. Through gathering these stories I have had
the opportunity to hear about this long process from many lenses. But if you're an original mom or an adoptee
and you are trying to make that decision, my suggestion is to contact someone
who can help and support you in an informed way and go for it. Do the search. As hard as it may be, it appears to be well
worth the work.
N.H. shark cloud. 9/3/2010
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